Beautiful use of Language

Beautiful Use of Language
Gentle Words

Talk is cheap. This proverb refers to the fact it’s easier to say we’ll do something than to actually do it. There’s no doubt we sometimes use words far too freely. We unthinkingly open our mouths and say things we later come to regret. Or, as the proverb suggests, we use language to make promises we can’t keep.

Slow up

As with many things, the antidote to poor use of language, is to slow down a little. When we slow, it’s possible to take the necessary time, to process our thoughts and true intentions. Above all, we must slow-up sufficiently to give ourselves enough time to consider the consequences, of the words we’re about to use. Thinking before speaking is a skill to nurture.

Volume

Last night I went to see the improv comedian and performance poet Phill Jupitus (If you’re English you’ll perhaps know him from various TV appearances during the late 90’s). Although I’m not in the business of reviewing comedy acts, or poetry for that matter, I thought on the whole it was value for money. My only issue was with all the shouting.

Quite a lot of comedians seem to do this. Often it’s done to beat hecklers down. Last night, it also had the effect of scaring the laughter, out of the audience. On occasion we all seemed terrified of Jupitus. He was very loud and intimidating. Laughter is an antidote to fear. Does Jupitus know this? Anyway, the hideous volume can mostly be credited to a good PA system, I suppose.

Words can be our stock-in-trade

Without the power of words (and their volume) Jupitus would be a bit lost. Words are his stock-in-trade. It’s evident time has taught him how to use words to good effect; even if this is just to shout down the hecklers. He seems to have grown so very tired of being heckled, over the past fourteen months of touring, that cutting them all dead in the first ten minutes – through sheer volume alone – seems to have become a necessity.

There was a little cleverness when Jupitus suggested – that if anybody wanted to heckle him – they’d be brought down to the stage to do five minutes of stand-up on their own. The audience went quiet, in terms of heckling, from that point forward. Hecklers are after all, just seeking a little bit of the limelight themselves, and Jupitus has cleverly recognised they often only want this surreptitiously. The suggestion, like any defence tactic, could have backfired though. Luckily it worked on this occasion.

 The Alternative: Beautiful use of Language

Like his mother before him Andrea Bocelli sang to his son a lot during his childhood. Listen to them now and this becomes all too evident. These two people, and their use of language, is evidence of how we become a clear reflection of the type of communication we experience during childhood.  

For some of us the type of communication experienced, was gentle, considered and kind. If so, you will have become a reflection if this. The alternative is the harsh, manipulative and ugly use of words, we so often hear. I personally heard a lot of fear and anger when young. Because of this, it’s necessary I make a conscious effort to remain gentle and calm, especially when anxious and stressed.

When I listen to Andrea Bocelli and his son sing, it makes me want to use gentle and beautiful communication. Their beautiful example makes me want to do this with all those I meet. I’m sure more music will help me on this quest. A door to be left open.

With this in mind, I believe we must all consider how and why we use the words we do. We could all be a little gentler with each other. We must also take the time to create the silence needed, to change these words, into something beautiful.

From Where the Wind

From Where the Wind

For years I got confused about wind direction

It still happens occasionally now. I have to remind myself, if I want to work out the wind direction, I need to think about where the wind is coming from, not where it’s going.

For example, if the wind is coming from the south west, this – in terms of reading it – is its direction. The wind is a south-westerly. My confusion would be to think that wind direction was where it’s going to!

In other words I would confuse a south-westerly as a north-easterly. The wind is going north-easterly but coming from the south-west. Wind direction is where its coming form. I remember! … Sometimes.

We all have these little confusions. Another one I’m reminded of now, is the order of a couple of letters, within the English alphabet. As a child I would often follow the letter Q with a U. This is incorrect as Q is followed by the letter R. I suppose it was something to do with Q and U rhyming. This holds no confusion for me nowadays. Unlike wind direction.

This brings me to my point: order and direction of thought

The order and direction of our thoughts are dictated by the map that exists within our minds. Our mental maps are created when very young and used as reference to the world. As a child wind direction wasn’t something ever discussed in detail. In fact it’s unlikely the subject was ever covered. If it had been – and how we read its direction explained – it’s highly likely there’d be no confusion now.

However, the point to bear in mind is, if wind direction had been explained to me (as fact) in a way that contradicted the established method, it would certainly explain my current confusion. As it is though, information is missing, from any earlier maps. I’m having to create a new one.

So, when it comes to understanding models and methods for living out our lives – that contradict established ones – confusion, can be the result. What we must remember though, is confusion only exists, because it conflicts with our childhood understandings.

If what we learnt in childhood isn’t working for us, it’s time to learn something new, and confusion need only last a short while

It need only last as long as it takes to understand how, we must change the direction and order, of our thinking. If we’re to make the necessary changes in our lives, we must be prepared to question the order, and direction of our beliefs.

We are coming from a different direction entirely

Decades of thinking about the human will has lead us to understand some fundamental differences. Those of us who’re motivated by fear will seek to control and entrap each other. Those of us who’re motivated by love will seek to empower and set each other free. It’s a direction you may have yet to experienced.

We are directed by the belief that love is empowerment. We also believe, the only way any of us are ever going to find this for ourselves, is to teach it  

Take some time to notice what’s happening in the world today and then ask yourself: Would it be beneficial to change the direction and order of my thinking? We know where we’re coming from, and we also know how this will dictate the kind of lives, we live. Get yourself on track for a beautiful life. Contact us.