Expensive Habits

“My counterpart at The Freedman College – Phil Whittingham – spent many years working as a Clinical and Analytical Hypnotherapist”

In his capacity as a Clinical Hypnotherapist, he treated many individuals, helping them break bad habits. The most obviously and well known of those is that of smoking.

At that time, twenty years ago, smoking was of course less expensive than it is today. Nevertheless, it was still an expensive habit even then, and so when we think of what it costs to smoke twenty cigarettes a day now, it quite takes the breath away (cough). We’re talking about approximately £3.360 per year.

More than anything, when looking at figures like that, my first thoughts turn to time and energy. How much time do we need to spend at work, earning this money, so we’re then able to pay for something that’s shortening our lives? For most people it’s a no brainer. That said, millions of people still smoke here in the UK. The figures are staggering if you care to look.

“As far as we’re concerned, the crux of the matter, is understanding the root of the issue”

Looking at the figures already mentioned, it’s easy to see the continuance of smoking – and most other addictions – as something that defies logic. It’s illogical, to continue doing something that costs us so much in time and energy, yet we continue. Why?

The simple answer is, this kind of habitual behaviour, is beyond our conscious control. The alternative – a person in full control of their mind – is no doubt puzzled, and somewhat dismayed, by the self-destructive nature of his fellow humans. Puzzled because unless we’ve actually experienced how it feels to have a hopeless addiction, it can be hard to understand, and sympathise with.

Even though we may find it hard, it’s important to remember, much of the root to addiction is driven by a sense of emptiness, guilt and indeed unhappiness. Without the fleeting satisfaction (and relief from guilt) one gets from feeding an addiction, the addicted, feel they’ll have problems coping. The belief is the addiction actually helps them cope. Looked at objectively, in the long term, all unhealthy addictions do in fact worsen the situation. An example of belief defying logic if ever there was one. Beliefs often do this, consider how religious beliefs defy, all logic.

“All things said, the degree of control we have over our minds relates closely to awareness”

Once we’re aware of the root to our addictions and compulsive behaviour we’re better able to gain control. The birthplace of our beliefs and self-destructive behaviour is often buried beneath our conscious awareness. Once we become aware, the affect, is to increase choice. If we’re aware of the driving forces behind self-destructive behaviour, but continue in the same vein, this surley makes it a deliberate act. A different matter entirely.

“A conscious choice, into throwing oneself of a building, is very different to the slow suicide of smoking?”

We can contribute so many destructive patterns, and our seeming inability to control them, to our lack of conscious awareness. Part of gaining full control over our lives, comes from the ability to question the usefulness of compulsive, habitual behaviour. Being able to spend more time doing the things we enjoy, through ridding ourselves of expensive habits, and the feelings and beliefs that drive them, is within everyone’s grasp. We do this through raising the level of our awareness.

It could be that we have no bad habits and yet feel the need for better control over our future plans and life. Either way, we must take some time to consider how time and energy, well invested, can help smooth out and lengthen this extraordinary journey through life.

Right from the off, our unique style of Personal Development, opens up this process through introducing mindfulness and meditation. A well understood method of raising our awareness. Check out our schedule here.

Wise Investments

Wise Investments

Investing in marketing, or some other business related issue, isn’t necessarily going to start showing an immediate return. A new oven in the kitchen of a restaurant, for example, won’t get paid for until its churned out quite a few joints of roast beef. I’ve used the example of roast beef since learning recently that the French call the English “roast beef.” This is done in the belief it’s the only thing eaten this side of the channel. So much for the marketing success of English cuisine!

Anyway, marketing is such a fickle beast, and so much of an art to get right, that seeing a tangible return from our investments and endeavours, can indeed take years. Either because it’s taken some time to perfect our strategy, or people need to be made aware of the services we offer, to begin with. This begs the question: can you create a market where none exists? Or is something only ever considered when introduced by someone first hand; the guy knocking on the front door for example. Knock, Knock.

“All the same, knocking on doors, advertising or investing in tools of the trade, it all costs time and money”

For some, it’s a very brave step to start spending money, where it’s known and understood, there’s unlikely to be an immediate return on our investments. As with many things, there may be no guarantee, they’ll actually be any return. This is where calculated risk comes into play. Successful investors are very good at working out the risks and the potential returns on any future business.

On a personal level, we reduce risk through ensuring that what we have to offer, is a quality product or service. I’m not not just talking about ensuring the roast beef (there with that example again) isn’t overcooked. We need to also talk about the person; the individual behind the product, or service. Aside from business matters, this is also relevant to our personal life, for:

“Meeting the woman, or man of our dreams, is achieved by ensuring we’re able to present ourselves as a worthy catch”

Wise Investments

Developing courage, persona, self-esteem with fabulous attitude to life, does not come naturally to many. Most of us need to work at it. If we’re not developing – with all of these thing’s in mind – we will be stagnating and wasting our money. Be the complete package. Invest in yourself. Attend a Personal Development Workshop.