Snookered with Human Affairs


There are days when I need to take deep breaths. Not because I’ve been running up the stairs, no, it’s because I currently can’t breathe through my nose. Because of this I seem to be forgetting to breathe. It is fortunate I’m able to take these breaths, because without them, I’d be dead. When that happens all my troubles will be over. Including a cold that feels like it might kill me anyway (man flue). I really wish people could learn how to keep their germs, to themselves, hey ho.

Anyway, what of troubles? Troubles such as: How do I get to meet new people? How do I change my current lethargy toward everything except snooker?

Having said that, I can’t even watch Ronnie O’Sullivan, right now. Is he being particularly arrogant at the moment or is that just me? I do of course understand, if you’re not in the UK at the moment, you might not give a rats arse about snooker. Even if it was current in your country, you perhaps still wouldn’t care about snooker, but hold on, I do have a valid point to share.

O’Sullivan’s seeming arrogance is understandable.

As a world class snooker player, he feels it unnecessary, that he should be made to jump through hoops. In order to be in the tournaments he enjoys, O’Sullivan needs to play a lot of snooker; some of which he finds very unappealing. What he actually wants is to cherry pick. He want’s to choose who, where and when, he plays. He feels dictated to and would prefer greater control. It’s completely understandable. He wants something different.

It could be that to call O’Sullivan arrogant is uncalled for and it would be far better to call him assertive. He needs to assert his rights – as he sees them – as a world class player. You would think your choices open up the better you get at something. As we can clearly see though, this is not always the case, especially when up against established regimes, or controlling organisations and people. To challenge this we need to do something different.

It can be that the tendency is to just give up, turn around, and start swimming in the same direction as everyone else

Winning takes strength and incredible tenacity. When putting yourself up, against something well established, the same applies. Whether on a personal level – the need to question established beliefs and patterns of behaviour to manifest meaningful change – or within the bigger picture, persistence is key.

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It’s a similar situation to starting a new business. If you’re small with a limited budget you may find yourself outbid when it comes to finding new customers. If every penny is very precious to you, competing in the normal way, will be impossible.

When we’re up against the big boys, we might end up feeling so beaten down by our efforts, that we become unwell.

If this is the case, it’s time to pause, and take stock. If what you’ve been doing isn’t working it’s time to do something different. The likes of O’Sullivan have suffered with their health in the past, and seeking to break away form being dictated to by the big boys in his business, is likely to prove tricky. He does currently have limited choices. You’ll excuse the pun when I say he looks snookered.

It would seem though that Ronnie O’Sullivan also understands, if he want’s to continue playing snooker, he’ll need to tow the line a little longer. After all, he has adequately proved his ability to get out of snookers, has he not?

With all of this considered, for myself and those interested, there is a small piece of advice I could offer. Stop taking any of this too seriously. When I take another deep breath (through my mouth), and look at the state of human affairs at the moment, I realise that no one else is. Swimming in the same direction as others, (or just treading water) at least until I feel well again, is probably okay.

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Personalised Without Credit


“When you don’t believe in credit nothings new and all you own has lost its hue”

I spent the majority of yesterday doing one of the things I love: motorcycle maintenance, oh yes. Now, those of you who instantly thought, this is going to be a man thing, bear with me, because it does concern us all. I’m going to talk about how to personalise.

Because I no longer believe in credit, everything I own has a certain age to it. I buy second, third or even fifth hand, and my motorcycle, now at the tender age of twenty seven, has had a few careful and not so careful owners. As you can see from the picture though, it is something I value and have spent time working on. More than anything, spending time on something, enables me to personalise it.

Take yesterday for example

Yesterday I overhauled the front brakes – replacing worn master cylinder parts – and realised it was a job that should have been done a long time ago. In fact when I bought the bike, the guy who sold it to me said: “yeah all the fluids have been changed mate” suffice to say, he was a lying turd. What’s really worrying is he’s a dealer! Tut tut. Anyway, now having done a major overhaul, I’m more confident than ever, that I can stop a quarter of a ton of motorcycle (travelling at high velocity) as quickly as I might need to. In other words I’ve personalised it.

It works in the same way when you decorate a house you’ve just bought or vacuum the snot, hair and bits of dead skin, out of a used car. By cleaning and/or decorating you get rid of the past.


What I’ve come to wonder about tattoos, is this: are they a way of taking ownership and personalising the body? Are the tattooed saying: this is mine now and I’m going to get rid of the past and personalise it. Did it not belong to them in the first place? I don’t know about you, but my body has always felt like mine. Although, how I look after it nowadays, is reflected in how I look after my possessions: well. It stands to reason, if you neglect things, tattooed or not, they’re going to let you down before their time.

The analogy goes on by mentioning that we mustn’t leave this kind of thing [caring for ourselves] to others. After all, others might be lying turds, and when we expect them to care for us, they can tend to take possession.

Others may have owned us, our houses, cars, and indeed motorcycles before, however, taking ownership and personalising things, does have its power. It sheds a new light on tattoos for me, that’s for sure. I might get one!


It’s true to say, when you don’t believe in credit, some of the things you own may not be shiny-new and may have lost a little of their lustre. The thing to remember though is this: when you’re free of debt, you’re no longer anyone’s slave. Yes you do need to learn patience, and potentially a little motorcycle maintenance, however, once you’ve personalised something, only then, do you truly own it.

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The Currency of Love

“Of late, once again, I find myself stuck with negative feelings relating to my fellow man. At times it seems so hard to be positive and understanding of others.”

It’s when I feel this way that I know there needs to be some kind of internal change. My cynicism and revulsion perhaps has value in terms of me distancing myself from certain people, the only problem being, I tend to distance myself from everyone.

It’s the horrible generalisation – that all humans are egotistical takers – that’s damaging. Perhaps it’s when we have low self-esteem, and potentially slight depression, that we have such negative opinions of others, perhaps, in fact, we have a downer on ourselves.

Along with negative opinions we must be cautious of the current culture of over-analysing ourselves and others. We seem to be over thinking and over questioning our behaviours. From gender neutral child-rearing (the abuse of experimenting with another person’s life) to the size of our carbon footprint, we all seem to be getting a little bogged down with the detail.

“They say the devil is in the detail. Is it really? Confusion, over-thinking and over-analysis are only adding to our current distress.”

There can be no harm in just taking a step back and taking the time to understand the damage inflicted when our ego’s are out of control. The human will and the human ego are the reasons for so much beauty and also so much ugliness in the world. All we need do, is understand the simple roots, to so many of our problems, and we take out the confusion.

For example, there can be no harm in extracting good, tried and tested methods of child-rearing. Believe it or not mothers and fathers of the past did do some things right. Family units, where children felt secure, due to strong and powerful structure and effective boundaries, are not something we should question as being restrictive.

Building beautiful families (and indeed relationships – the root of a strong family) does in fact take a lot of effort. Is it the use of this effort and energy that so many of us are potentially looking to avoid? If it is, and we don’t want to devote ourselves to investing the necessary energy into building strong families, perhaps we should consider not having them at all.

“All we need is the ability to make this kind of decision by escaping our instinctive programming. There are other things we can do.”

Those of us who come from strong loving families tend to create the same in return. Those who come from strong loving families see the value in them. If we don’t know the value of creating strong relationships and families, we must either learn this, so as to give our children a powerful head-start in life, or simply give up on the idea.

Just never assume you’ll create a loving family if you’ve never experienced one. So if you go it alone, no harm done, enjoy your life and all that. You have permission to be free for God’s sake!

“Whether we like it or not, human children, with their developing ego and willpower, do need the kind of boundaries and structure we might find difficult to enforce.”

As parents we might find enforcing rules difficult through fear of falling out of our children’s favour. It’s a fallacy to think our children need to be our friends though. Enforcing structure and boundaries may at times feel uncomfortable, yet be rest assured, our children will feel more secure and loved as the result. In the long-term, we will reap the rewards – in society as a whole – when we once again embrace and understand the need for structure and boundaries when raising our children.

On recently reading the statistics, for the amount of young children referred to doctors for gender related issues, a little tremor of fear spread through my body: literally the hairs on the back of my neck stood up. Children’s minds are simply not developed enough to be left to themselves to decide what sex they want to be. Nature is easily relied upon when we are unsure as parents: if your child has a penis it’s a boy, and if the alternative of a vagina, it’s a girl. Simple. We socialise our children as boys and girls to create a type of balanced structure within society.

“When we project our dislike, or biased opinions and beliefs of what it is to be a man or a woman, we mold our children into being what they become: a reflection of those same beliefs and biased opinions no matter what genitals they’re born with.”

Uncertainty and confusion comes with growing up, it’s up to us, as parents, to help our children remove confusion and uncertainty – and not through a surgeon’s knife and injected hormones – but through love of ourselves and the opposite sex. Things are becoming so horribly complicated.

This brings me onto the recent stories surrounding sexual harassment. If, as a woman, you were raised with the belief and expectation that you’re simply an object of man’s desire, and its then up to you to manipulate and use this desire, you are then complicit in any kind of abuse. If you’re frightened of not getting that next promotion or acting role (same distinction) and so sleep with the director through this fear, you are then complicit.

“On the other hand, if your mother taught you that you’re a free individual, who will naturally be desired by men – and yet gave you the knowledge of how to use this in a constructive, not submissive or negative way – then you’re simply playing the game of life.”

When playing the game, to the extent you open your legs, more fool you. A good slap to the face of any potential abuser will do more to gain respect, all you need, in this instance, is less fear and a little more courage. Good, loving and strong mothers, instill this into the minds of our daughters.

The currency of love is the most valuable of all. This currency equips our children with the tools that enable them to push aside their ego and allow their will to prevail. In other words, the next acting role or job, is something to be gained due to high self-esteem and a powerful will, awarded through love in childhood. Our ego can be blind to the damage we can cause ourselves through striving for greatness.

“We love our children through setting strong boundaries and effective structure so they may flourish in their adult lives.”

Yes add colour to their lives by allowing them to be children, yet the black and white, of yes or no, rather than maybe, is equally as important. The currency of love has far greater value than we realise, all we need do, is understand how to implement it.

So much rebellion, so many fighting what they see as conformity. Love can never be allowing our children to run riot. Love can never be allowing our children to try and raise themselves. Children must have the security of structure and boundaries so they may grow into adults that contribute to a society that considers the needs of all. Remaining as rebellious children and then having children of our own is perpetuating confusion and disorder.

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Some might say that none of this matters. They may well be right and yet those of us who remember (instead of choosing to forget) the pain and fear, that comes with insecurity, loneliness and the disorder broken families create, think that it does matter. It matters a lot. It matters to our children. A person is free to choose who they are and what they want in life provided they are free of confusion. We constantly witness the troubled lives of adults with childhoods devoid of structure, love, boundaries and the effective guidance from powerful role models. It starts with you.

Memories of the Future


It’s funny how certain memories stick with you and become more prominent than others. Like the time a young boy came to see me; he’d developed an eating disorder. Strange as it may seem, he’d only eat minced beef, and his mother was worried about him. I was of course a last resort, with her having tried everything else, before knocking on my door.

He was laying in my reclining chair, with his eyes closed, recounting an upsetting experience during his dinner hour at school some weeks prior. I’d readied myself with a small tissue, so was sufficiently equipped to catch the small tear, that fell from his left eye. As I did, I turned to his mother, who was also seated in the room; the eye contact we shared exchanged all the information she needed; what he needed.

And now the memory of the two girls who turned up for an initial consultation; they’d read somewhere that Hypnotherapy can help you grow larger breasts. Out of the two girls, only one turned up for the future session we’d booked. All in all, she only came back two more times. At the end of the third session she said: “I won’t be coming back again because I’ve realised something.”

‘Okay’ I said

“Yes, I’ve realised I don’t need bigger breasts, because I’m already beautiful.”

And she was.

“The thing is, what so many of us fail to realise, is the fact we are already beautiful, and that this beauty resides deep within us. Underneath all the layers of nonsense we’re surrounded with, and taught by the world, lies the beautiful truth.”

I’m unsure what information was exchanged to help the girl realise her beauty, and as they unfold in my mind now, I’m also unable to find the connection between the two memories. Perhaps what connects them is the feelings I experienced at the time: happiness.

Happy that some people had managed to make sense of their lives and what was missing: Love.

Just a little more love is sometimes all we need.

I am actually laying in bed as I write this (I have an early start) and can hear church bells ringing. I live right next to a church (St Saviour’s) and the campanologists do their practising on a Wednesday night. It’s not an unpleasant sound, yet neither is it what I’d describe as – ‘pleasing to the ears.’ It’s just background noise like so many things are.

There is always a certain background noise. For me, it’s there to remind me of my wonderful experiences of helping people during my time as an Analyst. If you take the time to lie quietly you will eventually also hear this sound. The memories, I’m reminded of, will be there, popping up from time to time, for as long as I live. I feel memories are important, but we mustn’t dwell on the past, good memories or not. What they do help me understand though, is the importance of empowering people, and how this in turn empowers the giver.

Whatever you do in life make sure you recognise the giving nature of the role. When we take a moment to consider it, many, many occupations are of a giving nature, and that’s something beautiful to recognise about human beings.

Give of yourself, you’ll look back, with the power to move forward. א

In Response

In response to:

“This isn’t about us being selfish, keeping him alive because we can’t bear to let him go. It’s because if we did not fight for this chance, we will have to live with the ‘what if’ for ever”…

The above quote from Charlie Gard’s parents really got me wondering. After all, it’s very important we never discard anything said, and especially if it’s handed to us on a plate. The important point is whether or not these words have been suggested to them, or come via solicitors, doctors (in America) or whoever. If they’re original thoughts from Charlie’s parents then we cannot discount something said, whether it’s a negation or not, as being the motivation. In other words, when we have the courage to face the truth, we will see our motivations are always selfishly motivated. There is no wrong or right about this; it just is. It’s part of the human condition, and one of the reason we’re the ‘warriors,’ that Charlie’s parents described him as.

Without selfishness we’d never have made it this far. I think we should all take a step back, and understand the pain parents of terminally ill children, go through. We’re then able to objectively see the simple truth: none of want to see a child die and will selfishly keep them alive at all costs. Once again there is no wrong or right.

“What we do seem to struggle with, is seeing clearly, what the best interest of the child are. The child cannot speak for itself, it can only look beautiful and needy. This is translated by the parents into a powerful emotional bond, that even the reality of terminal illness, will struggle to break.”

We, as a society, have, over time, become increasingly dependent on government, and the people that work for it. Any form of dependence weakens us to the point of being unable to make important decisions for ourselves. When young, and driven by our emotions, (heart over head) we’re unlikely to make decisions that are either rational or based on the wellbeing of someone else, especially a needy and beautiful child. Although needy and beautiful Charlie Gard was a very poorly child, and for all we know, his suffering could have been off any scale we could possibly judge. The ‘what if’ needed to be: what if this child is suffering intolerably? If there’s any question of this, we mustn’t prolong life. None of us ever ‘save’ lives we only ever prolong them.

So when we choose to leave important decision to government, because we’re so weakened by dependence, it proves hard to suddenly, and selfishly decide, we want to change the rules to prolong a child’s life. If we want others to look after us, that’s exactly what they’ll do; the selfish motivation in this instant, is power. The dependent are powerless at the hands of government and those who work for them.

We take back our power from government when we take out the confusion. Protecting the rights of a child can never necessarily mean keeping them alive at all costs. It’s probably an overused cliché, however, we never allow an animal to suffer unnecessarily, so why would we a child? Because we think human life is more important than that of an animal? Or is it because we love them enough to let them go?

Reading that Charlie’s parents will now “let our beautiful little boy be with the angels” only goes to prove how far we’ve yet to travel, when it comes to loving our children. Absurd Magical Beliefs (AMB’s) have no place in child-rearing if we have any chance of making it further. It’s this kind of thinking that  keeps us dependent on others (in this case doctors) who’ve been awarded power over us, and will continue to make decisions, on our behalf. 

“Finally, it’s been suggested, the American doctor who offered to help, had a vested interest in the company that manufactured the drugs, that would have supposedly prolong Charlie’s life.”

Once again we can see none of us are free from selfish motivations. The trick, is to change our understandings of the word selfish. When we have little consideration for the needs of other, we’re being self-centered, which is the reality of many people in the case of Charlie Gard. When we’re selfish we can very easily selfishly put the needs of others before our own, because this is a pleasurable thing to consider. Believe it or not, we can feel pleasure, when one of our own, is released from suffering.  


Bulletproof and fearless of our pain


“If you believed the universe had a plan, what would it be? To propagate life? To just exist for the sake of existing? To grow and expand until it can grow no further?”

And what of us? You might think it follows, that if we’re part of a growing, expanding universe, we must grow and expand too. If we take a step back, we can certainly see evidence of this in some quarters, yet also see evidence of its opposite, in others.

The universe has a structure that works under some very strict and fundamental rules. It’s been said, that if there were only slight deviation from these rules of structure, the universe – as we know it – couldn’t have come into existence. Perhaps a different kind of universe would’ve come into being instead.

And so, when we have slight deviation from strict rules, either that, which would have been formed, doesn’t come into existence at all, or comes into existence in a way that is flawed, and as such, unrecognisable by us. Such a flaw, in anything, be it universes or life forms, will no doubt shorten its lifespan. For example, its said that several universes may have come into existence, long before the one we inhabit, yet due to their flawed nature, came and went in the blink of an eye.

Here and gone in the blink of an eye

“Does the universe morn these dead, early attempts? No, the universe expands, grows and thrives, as a result of these early failures.”

For many of us, it’s very hard to move on and let go of our past failures. Our feelings and fears get in the way of seeing things in a more rational light. When we do however, we free ourselves to see early mistakes and flawed creations, as something different. In fact, we can often see our early creations, as being there simply as a way of reminding us, we are never perfect. We are only ever perfectly imperfect, and yet sometimes, we even fall too short of this line, to survive.  

Parents of terminally ill children need the strength and courage to let go. Most of us wonder how they can possibly bear the pain of losing a sick child; a child they’ve created. However short a lifespan though, we can find a way to celebrate it, and learn from what this short life has taught us. In time, when we find these lessons of love – waiting to be understood – we become strong, so strong in fact, we become bulletproof and fearless of our pain. 

Time In My Head (for the professional)

“Just this morning I’ve been reminded of how I create a particular difficulty: I allow myself to be distracted”

Like me, you may be on a path; a journey toward a goal. This goal may require a lot of your time and energy. In fact, if you’re intention is to be successful at reaching your goal, allotting the correct amount of time and energy, is an important proviso.

Thinking time is very precious. If we’re to be successful, focusing our thinking-energy, in one particular direction, is required. Distractions can come in many forms, from everyday activities, (such as cooking, exercise, working and sleeping), to problems we may encounter when dealing with others.

Dealing with others can be the most distracting. Even when we’re cooking, washing up after we’ve eaten, or exercising much later, we can still be focusing our thinking-energy elsewhere. It’s other people that often break our train of thought.

“It’s the behaviour of others that can break the strong connection we may have formed with our important creative energy.”


The way to understand this, and potentially deal with the problem, is to measure our level of our emotional involvement with others, compared to that of our work. We’re measuring the importance of purpose. Let’s say our intention is to leave some kind of positive legacy to the world. I’d say that was quite important, wouldn’t you?

Now, in order to finance your activities in this regard, you need work. It could be, the work you’ve chosen is deliberately undemanding; taking very little of your thought-energy. So much so, that even when doing the work, you can be busy processing your long term goals in your head. All well and good you might think.

The stumbling block are the people you must work with. No matter how hard we try, the antics of those around us, continue to interfere with our thoughts. The main reason for this is our own humanness, this is to say, our empathy and intuitive nature is getting in the way. Others disturb our emotions; they create emotional disturbances to such a degree it becomes a distraction. In this scenario we must ask ourselves: What must I do to lower the level of my emotional involvement?

“When we’re emotionally involved we’re being fully engaged. The reason for our emotional involvement may well be a lack of focus on what’s really important: our legacy.”

If we remain as the majority, we leave nothing, we simply consume and die. Think about it. Others, will potentially be distracting you from your purpose, simply because they have none. It is not your responsibility to teach them this, your responsibility is to yourself, and your positive legacy.


It can be seen as hard or a little callous to suggest we must be indifferent to some of those around us, however, nothing is achieved when we’re being distracted from the goal of reaching our purpose. Mindfulness is key. Be mindful of your emotions and how others may be throwing stones into the pool of your mind.


The Need for Gentleness

Lens flare light. Cross on peak of Hoher Goell.

The more he shouted, sending spittle flying with the outpouring of his halitosis breath, gritting his teeth for pause, all I heard and saw, was the rage and fear of man.

It’s the reason there’s so many of us, they think the antidote to fear is a f**k. It’s the reason we’re soiling the nest, they think consumerism makes us all heroes. It’s the reason we’re so angry, so fast to blame, so fast to accuse. It’s the reason we’re in denial, as ignorance is bliss. It’s the reason there’ll be no animals in the wild a thousand years from now.

I turned a raging fear into a mouse this week and all I said was: ‘you need to be gentle with me.’ We’ve forgotten the gentle child that lives within us all, the child that curls up in a ball when shouted at, and abused.

I’ll hear nothing if this continues, this shouting and abuse of my beautiful, gentle child within. You see you need to be gentle now, if not, we all just shrink away, only to be replaced with a raging sound.

From me, no one is listening. I’ve grown so tired of the bitter faces, the angry smiles, the insincerity of it all. My child cannot hear, through the defence of his shielding from the sound of this angry, consuming gone wild.

‘You need to be gentle or I won’t hear a sound.’

“Come on my son, knock him down, fight for the ball, fight to win! That’s the way!” The only wild animals, a thousand years from now, will be us.

‘You need to be gentle or I won’t hear a sound.’ א

Brilliant at Stating the Obvious

Nothing is actually obvious until you’ve been shown it. It’s only after reading or being taught something do we say: “well, that’s just so obvious.” Let’s just make it really clear – it wasn’t that way until after we’d read it, or had been taught it. Oh, but NOW…! well, how bloody obvious!

The thing about the obvious, is that teaching it – and simply because of it’s nature – obviousness leaves no impression. However, if we allowed ourselves to be influenced by this – to the point we give up showing or saying it – ignorance would prevail.

Now, the reason something is obvious, is because it’s easy to learn. It’s easy to learn because it’s already there; already there but only at an unconscious level. Take the example of a man who beats his wife. We know this is mainly driven by fear, yet it’s not until someone – who we perhaps see as an authority on the subject – points it out, do we truly get it.

It’s as if the understanding, just pointed out to us, was already within our grasp: we knew it, but didn’t know we knew it. This doesn’t diminish its power though. If anything, it makes the ability, to point out the obvious, invaluable to us all.

Someone or something ‘needs’ to have made us aware, of what was previously an unconscious understanding, before it becomes fully conscious, and consequently obvious. “Man you’re just so obvious!” Well fuck you! Conscious enough for you?

As a further example, consider someone who works in the reptile enclosure at the local zoo. As bizarre as it may seem, this individual actually has a deep hatred of reptiles, yet dutifully gets out of bed each morning, in order to tend to the stinking reptiles he so loathes.

After years and years of doing this job, he begins to find it increasingly hard to motivate himself, and get out of bed in the mornings. After some further time – to really get his pain and suffering to intolerable levels – our reptile carer decides to get some outside, objective assistance, to improving his health.


How odd – it may now seem – that we should need to point out, doing a job we hate, will, in time, make us unwell? Crazy isn’t it? However millions of us are doing this very same thing every day! How bizarre is it that so many of us should feel like we have no choice? Our reptile keeper had been thinking to himself: “well, this is what I do, I look after reptiles.” How about, ‘fuck the reptiles man, go out and get a fucking life!’ Obvious? It is now.

Take Your Mind Out of Confusion


The key to finding clarity is specifics. Be specific, ask yourself: ‘What specifically do I want?’

We live in confusing times. We’re constantly receiving mixed messages from those around us. Be it politicians, work colleagues, managers or peers, all seem to be telling us different things, and giving us conflicting advice.

The media are most to blame in terms of these confused and mixed  messages. You might wonder why this is. Why do the media and so many others seem to be sending such confusion out? The short answer to that question is, they’re simply confused themselves.

Let’s take a recent example: The fifa debacle over poppies and the right of football players to display them on Armistice day. Fifa’s secretary general, Fatma Samoura stated: “Britain is not the only country that has been suffering from the result of war.” If you think about this statement for a moment, you’ll see how it politicises the whole issue. The very reason fifa cited for banning the display of poppies in the first place. It brings to mind the expression ‘all criticism is self-criticism.’ There is nothing further to say of Fatma and her response.

“So confusion is something constantly sent out from the confused. We can ask: Why are so many people currently living in a state of confusion? What does confusion actually do for us?”

If we’re maintaining a state of mind, or it’s being maintained by the forces that be, we can be sure that it’s serving some kind of purpose. Believe it or not, confusion can be seen to have value. Consider what’s being done, and what changes are actually taking place, whilst we’re all confused? Exactly. Nothing.

When we’re confused, unsure of which direction to take, or which choice to make, the best response is often to just freeze and do nothing. We’re being kept in a kind of stasis through confusion. It’s either that, or we make bad decisions, and take the worst choices, through being ill informed.

The remedy or antidote, obviously, is to take our minds out of this state by finding clarity. We do this through specifics and then listening to the correct guidance. The correct guidance comes from our own clear thinking. We have clear thinking when we exclude the confused messages. In other words, decide to block out mixed, confused and conflicting messages.

Here, is a clear, exact and important message for clarity:

“The confused are those who are frightened. They’re frightened because they have little control over their own minds and ego. Their grasping battle for power over others, is being played out through sending out confused, mixed and conflicting messages. There’s currently a vicious downward cycle of confusion being perpetuated, through their fear, of losing control.”


Take back control through the rule of exclusion (see my previous post) and you’ll find instant relief. Once in a clear calm, rational state of mind, ask yourself again: ‘What specifically do I want?’