Powerless to Powerful

Choice

I read a blog post this morning that spoke about choices. The author of the post was saying how it’s sometimes of no benefit to tell people: ‘you have a choice.’ I wholeheartedly agree.

I agree, because there are times in life, when we feel like we don’t have the power to make sensible choices. We may feel so powerless that we’re unable to make any choices at all. We can feel like we have ‘no choice.’

At some point most of us have, or will experienced, a feeling of powerlessness

We only have to look around us to see all the powerless people. People who know in their hearts, that their chosen lifestyle, isn’t healthy. People who known there’s more to life than the way they’re currently living. And yet they seem stuck. The seem powerless.

Even though this path is likely to end with a walk across broken glass, they’re so powerless, they have no choice

It’s not all doom and gloom though. There is always a way to change powerlessness into power. It does involve choice, and as good fortune would have it, on this occasion, it’s an easy one to make. It’s a choice that can be decided in an instant, and it’s one that even the powerless, can make.

When I think back, to help me understand what it was that helped me make important decisions in the past, I realise what it was that awarded me this power. It seems there’s a fine line between choosing to change – because we’re fearful of the consequences if we don’t – and making that same choice, through love. Perhaps both are involved.

There are some choices in life that are easy to make

Yes, it could well be the case, that we firstly need to feel a little afraid of consequences, but then we must be focused on the need for more. We must want more if we’re to avoid that walk across broken glass.

Firstly we’re fearful of the pain and consequences, if we stay on the same path, but then we must turn our attention to the benefits of change. It’s the only way, because if we stay afraid, we stay powerless. There is no lasting power in fear. It may embolden us to begin with (fight or flight) yet this quickly fades. Love never fades. So the question now is: How do we turn to love?

In answer to that last question, and to continue on from the link, we turn to love through watching example. We must want the kind of life we see others living. We must know – or at the very least suspect – what it must be like to live a beautiful life. Finding those who we see as having beautiful lives is where it gets a little tricky. I say this because it is of course relative to how we think. It’s relative to how educated we are to the importance of looking after our minds and bodies.

It could be that we wait for the warning signs

Be this in our health: we might wait until we experience blood in our vomit before we stop drinking (by then of course it might be too late). Or we might wait until our partner becomes violent before we decide to leave a toxic relationship. Either way, waiting, under these kind of circumstances, is a bit of a fools game. Far better to make a comparison, and then ask if the life we currently have, is making the grade. And with that in mind, be assured, a beautiful life has nothing to do with what most of us are taught to believe.

Yes there are times when to be told: ‘you have a choice’ can feel empty and even slightly insulting

It certainly feels this way when we’re powerless and unable to change. It’s this powerlessness we must firstly expunge. We do this through seeking examples of how to live and then applying this to ourselves. Yes, fear is involved, but then we must always turn to love. It’s okay to be afraid of the consequences – of continuing along the path we’re currently on – however, we must be aware and remember, love will always be the essential ingredient to find.

To close, there are some further important things for us to be aware of

Many of us follow the paths we do because we’re seeking the very thing I’m speaking of. We actually believe, on a very deep level, that the things we do – that are not for our better good – will get us the love and attention we crave. If we’re very lucky, toward the end of our lives, we might find a caring nurse or relative that treats us with the respect and love, only a child deserves. Here is the important point: We mustn’t seek this kind of love. The opportunity for this died when we became adults.

Those who suggest they will take responsibility for you, are taking your power, and keeping you stuck

The kind of love we must seek is that of an adult. A love that understands how being fully responsible for ourselves, is the only way to live a long, happy and healthy life. Don’t wait, find the examples you seek, and step into life. We turn powerlessness into power through love.  

From Where the Wind

From Where the Wind

For years I got confused about wind direction

It still happens occasionally now. I have to remind myself, if I want to work out the wind direction, I need to think about where the wind is coming from, not where it’s going.

For example, if the wind is coming from the south west, this – in terms of reading it – is its direction. The wind is a south-westerly. My confusion would be to think that wind direction was where it’s going to!

In other words I would confuse a south-westerly as a north-easterly. The wind is going north-easterly but coming from the south-west. Wind direction is where its coming form. I remember! … Sometimes.

We all have these little confusions. Another one I’m reminded of now, is the order of a couple of letters, within the English alphabet. As a child I would often follow the letter Q with a U. This is incorrect as Q is followed by the letter R. I suppose it was something to do with Q and U rhyming. This holds no confusion for me nowadays. Unlike wind direction.

This brings me to my point: order and direction of thought

The order and direction of our thoughts are dictated by the map that exists within our minds. Our mental maps are created when very young and used as reference to the world. As a child wind direction wasn’t something ever discussed in detail. In fact it’s unlikely the subject was ever covered. If it had been – and how we read its direction explained – it’s highly likely there’d be no confusion now.

However, the point to bear in mind is, if wind direction had been explained to me (as fact) in a way that contradicted the established method, it would certainly explain my current confusion. As it is though, information is missing, from any earlier maps. I’m having to create a new one.

So, when it comes to understanding models and methods for living out our lives – that contradict established ones – confusion, can be the result. What we must remember though, is confusion only exists, because it conflicts with our childhood understandings.

If what we learnt in childhood isn’t working for us, it’s time to learn something new, and confusion need only last a short while

It need only last as long as it takes to understand how, we must change the direction and order, of our thinking. If we’re to make the necessary changes in our lives, we must be prepared to question the order, and direction of our beliefs.

We are coming from a different direction entirely

Decades of thinking about the human will has lead us to understand some fundamental differences. Those of us who’re motivated by fear will seek to control and entrap each other. Those of us who’re motivated by love will seek to empower and set each other free. It’s a direction you may have yet to experienced.

We are directed by the belief that love is empowerment. We also believe, the only way any of us are ever going to find this for ourselves, is to teach it  

Take some time to notice what’s happening in the world today and then ask yourself: Would it be beneficial to change the direction and order of my thinking? We know where we’re coming from, and we also know how this will dictate the kind of lives, we live. Get yourself on track for a beautiful life. Contact us.

The Shadow

The Shadow

I want you to imagine yourself walking down a dimly lit alley. It’s cold and damp, the streetlamps, are behind you. With that cold, halogen light behind, you’re casting a shadow in front. Your shadow is one step ahead, it would seem; it’s you that’s following it.

Of course, to place your shadow behind, the light needs to be coming from in front. Only then will it be behind you.

As you walk, the cold street lighting gets dimmer, and you notice a gentle warm light, up ahead. Stop for a moment, and look behind, there it is, that shadow of the past. Stationary, all is still, your shadow is waiting too.

Change though, and look forward with the light ahead. Move on, your shadow, trailing behind

Your shadow represents aspects of you that must be left behind. That unmotivated person, who drifts, undisciplined, with no direction or plan. It represents that part of you, that just lingers, and wastes the day. It doesn’t plan. It doesn’t make busy. It’s just maligned and lazy in a stew.

The shadow is that younger aspect of you. That part that liked the drama of conflict and heated emotions. That part of you that refuses to settle, commit and discipline yourself, constructive. It refuses the creative and new. The shadowy you refuses to plan, and fill the day with energy, and hew.

Look Ahead

Look around, the light is above you now. There’s no shadow to be seen. It’s time to say goodbye, to the shadowy past, there’s things for you to do. It’s that light of awareness striking you now. The awareness that you must plan each day, not laze it away.

Wise Fields

Discipline yourself to follow that plan. You’re no longer on a route dictated by the past. Following the same patterns from those before. Step out of the alley into that open space. Wise fields of glory expanding all around. No matter where you look, there’s no shadow in sight. Dead and gone, along with the past. Make a plan for you.

Right Now, No One Has Ever Hurt You – October 6th 2018

Hurt
Shit Happens

If we were to live by the attitude “No one has, or will ever, hurt me” how would life be?

The first thing we’d need to tackle is how to actually achieve this? How can it be possible to believe no one has or will ever hurt us? To start with, let’s look at the benefit, to this attitude.

If we genuinely believe no one has hurt us it takes the mind into a totally different place. We live without recrimination, anger and regret; all destructive places. We carry guilt when we believe people have hurt us. This guilt is mainly borne of feelings relating to inadequacy and blame. When we blame we experience guilt.

Every other human being on the planet is a reflection of ourselves, and so when we blame, who are we in fact blaming? That’s right, ourselves. So living without these feelings is extremely liberating. You will need to do it in order to understand it.

So, in terms of doing it, how is this possible?

Some might say, the key to living with this philosophy, is forgiveness. I would say, if that works for you, then do it. A much more effective means of achieving this though, is bound-up in the understanding of what human error is: Human error is always a two way street. Human error is a failure in thinking, and more specifically, it’s an error in understanding – or caring – for cause and effect.

Let’s take drink. If you drink alcohol it’s going to affect your judgement. Even so, it’s no excuse to say to the judge – before he takes your driving licence away – “I crashed, your honour, because I was drunk and that means I’m not to blame” A court of law will not consider this a valid argument. Consideration, of your right mindedness before you took the drink, takes precedence. In other words, taking responsibility before the event, is what’s important in law.

An Additional Aspect

Here’s the thing. If you were injured, because you decided to take a lift from a drunk driver, the error is also yours. You decided to get in a car with someone who’d been drinking, To then blame the driver is to believe someone has hurt you. In order to rid ourselves of this belief we must accept our part in the dance. Getting in the car with a drunk – should you be lucky enough to have survived – is what you’re learning to not do, next time. Make sense?

When we accept that error is a two way street, we save ourselves, from guilt. Guilt is generated through constantly reliving past errors. We’re thinking: we, I, he, they or she, should or shouldn’t have done this or that. We’re thinking: I’m suffering because of them. Actually, we’re suffering, because of our thinking.

The reality is, there’s no, “we, he or she, should or shouldn’t have” it’s gone, and even if we returned to the past, with the same thinking skills and resources we had then, we’d make the same mistake again now. Of course we would. We can never correct the errors of the past with guilt, anger and recrimination; never. It’s learning and moving forward that does this. The past is done; we must learn from the mistakes and move forward. A mistake is a means of doing things differently next time.

Let’s make things a little more tricky

What if you were a pedestrian knocked down by a drunk driver? Well, once again, we must accept that it is possible to be in the wrong place at the wrong time. The way we rid ourselves of anger, recrimination, guilt and blame, in this instance, is not to pin blame – believing someone has hurt us – but to accept the random unpredictable nature of life. In the worse case scenario (if you’re dead nothing matters) you sustained life changing injuries. Life changing injuries will have set you on a different path and it’s this path you must now focus on. Keeping the mind in blame, and the past, is destructive primarily to you. The mindset of “I hurt so they must hurt too” is damaging to us all. Stop it. When we believe no one has hurt us we free everyone.

That said, you will always be the most important aspect. Blaming, believing you’ve been hurt, will ultimately reflect on compounding any damage done. Whatever that might be. For example, I recently read an interview with a famous actor, whose mother was physically violent toward him as a child. It’s his believe that many women have continued to hurt him throughout his whole adult life. He’s very angry. Until he stops his unconscious generalisation (all women hurt me) and removes his anger, through properly loving himself, he will continue to be attracted to cruel and abusive women. For him to start believing – no one has ever hurt me – he would need to understand that the me, in that statement, refers to now. In the now moment, no one, has ever hurt him. The past no longer exists.

The other thing to briefly consider is victim-blaming

Perpetrators blame victims in an attempt to remove their guilt. This is dealt with when we also see errors in judgement, or lack of personal responsibility, as something that happened then. Victims and perpetrators must both see their errors as past learnings and move forward. This is the case whether victim or perpetrator.

The human obsession with dragging the past into the present, so we can blame with anger and recrimination, is utterly pointless. Remembering the past is one thing, but remembering the past and associating it with feelings of guilt and anger, is a totally different state of affairs.

So believing no one has, or will ever hurt us, frees and empowers us. Bear in mind though, if someone were to come at you with a shitty stick, it would be wise to duck! Taking responsibility for our actions is something we must learn. Life teaches us how to do this. Live and be free, no one has, or will ever hurt you, now. 

Erebus Memories

Erebus Memories

Ships and Explorers

Last night I attended a talk from the globe-trotting Monty Pythoner, Michael Palin. He’s currently doing the rounds promoting his new book Erebus (the story of a ship).

All very interesting and informative, especially if you’re interested, in the history of nautical exploration and sunken treasure. This post isn’t a review of Mr Palin’s book or talk, however, I would like it to act as a lead-in to the subject of exploration.

After last night’s history lesson, I’m in no doubt at all, about the bravery exhibited by the nautical explorers of past and present

Be it circumnavigating the world, climbing mountains or charting new territory, explorers are a certain breed. Individuals who are prepared to move out of their comfort zone, and into the unknown, set us all fabulous example. We could say they’re the epitome of the tenacious human spirit.

The vast majority of us don’t find our way into the history books

Most of us live out our lives occasionally making small triumphs – that may seem quite large to us – and we do our best to make a difference. In this sense we could say that from day-to-day, to a greater or lesser extent, we’re all explorers of life. Of course we are and sometimes we need to move into uncharted territory.

From a Personal Development perspective

The exploration, into uncharted territory, begins when we’re able to physically map out the links and connections, that make us who we are. The ability to see and understand, in plain sight, the processes involved in how our minds move from one belief to another, has proved to be an invaluable resource for early explorers. It enabled them to see how the mind restricts itself through its internal maps.

The  nautical explorers of the past, moved their ships beyond the edges, of the known

They moved beyond their maps and charts. For us to follow their example, means we’re able to break into new ground, and become greater then the sum of our parts. To become more than the sum of our beliefs. To be shown in clear and simple terms, how to move beyond the restrictions of our limiting beliefs, is unique.

Being the explorers that broke into new territory, came at great cost, to those of HMS Erebus. As can be seen though, due to the endeavours of those early explorers, we all benefit from their courage.

We’ve ‘come out of the dark’ as a result of their courage

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Personalised Without Credit

Personalise

“When you don’t believe in credit nothings new and all you own has lost its hue”

I spent the majority of yesterday doing one of the things I love: motorcycle maintenance, oh yes. Now, those of you who instantly thought, this is going to be a man thing, bear with me, because it does concern us all. I’m going to talk about how to personalise.

Because I no longer believe in credit, everything I own has a certain age to it. I buy second, third or even fifth hand, and my motorcycle, now at the tender age of twenty seven, has had a few careful and not so careful owners. As you can see from the picture though, it is something I value and have spent time working on. More than anything, spending time on something, enables me to personalise it.

Take yesterday for example

Yesterday I overhauled the front brakes – replacing worn master cylinder parts – and realised it was a job that should have been done a long time ago. In fact when I bought the bike, the guy who sold it to me said: “yeah all the fluids have been changed mate” suffice to say, he was a lying turd. What’s really worrying is he’s a dealer! Tut tut. Anyway, now having done a major overhaul, I’m more confident than ever, that I can stop a quarter of a ton of motorcycle (travelling at high velocity) as quickly as I might need to. In other words I’ve personalised it.

It works in the same way when you decorate a house you’ve just bought or vacuum the snot, hair and bits of dead skin, out of a used car. By cleaning and/or decorating you get rid of the past.

Tattoos

What I’ve come to wonder about tattoos, is this: are they a way of taking ownership and personalising the body? Are the tattooed saying: this is mine now and I’m going to get rid of the past and personalise it. Did it not belong to them in the first place? I don’t know about you, but my body has always felt like mine. Although, how I look after it nowadays, is reflected in how I look after my possessions: well. It stands to reason, if you neglect things, tattooed or not, they’re going to let you down before their time.

The analogy goes on by mentioning that we mustn’t leave this kind of thing [caring for ourselves] to others. After all, others might be lying turds, and when we expect them to care for us, they can tend to take possession.

Others may have owned us, our houses, cars, and indeed motorcycles before, however, taking ownership and personalising things, does have its power. It sheds a new light on tattoos for me, that’s for sure. I might get one!

Credit

It’s true to say, when you don’t believe in credit, some of the things you own may not be shiny-new and may have lost a little of their lustre. The thing to remember though is this: when you’re free of debt, you’re no longer anyone’s slave. Yes you do need to learn patience, and potentially a little motorcycle maintenance, however, once you’ve personalised something, only then, do you truly own it.

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Working Class Clever

Working Class Clever

There are numerous examples of working class clever. It’s the romantic rags to riches story. Be it comedians or businessmen, we’re able to hear or read all about desires for change. We’re often told stories of poverty and hardship. How suffering and pain in their past acted as the driving force behind their current success. We read about their need to escape the past.

There are driving forces from the past, other than poverty and hardship, we can read about too

It’s very useful to see cleverness as being something of a two tier arrangement. The first cleverness is recognition. We must be able to see something outside of the existence our upbringing taught us. Most of the working classes unfortunately remain ignorant to their potential. The second cleverness is the ability to seize that thing we’re good at and put it to work.   

“There will have been a seed planted that grew into ambition and passion”

At some stage in the history of our working class clever, there will have been  the kind of feedback, that enlightened them to their cleverness. I believe we all have this cleverness but just lack the necessary feedback. It’s the: “if it were good enough for me it’s good enough for him” mentality in childhood that scuppers us. It’s this limiting mentality – bounced off children by parents – that really does us in. They use it to justify their continued ignorance. Mothers and fathers are often blind to the potential of children.

Without recognition and feedback it’s difficult to make headway  

The solution to this lack in childhood is to seek it once we’re older. The working class man, who feels trapped into his situation, can always do something about it. What’s needed is someone to recognise his potential who then shows him how to change through example. What’s needed is self belief.

If we want to find example of working class clever – and the rags to riches story – we never have to look too far. And the thing is, if we look a little deeper at these examples, we will see the seed that was sown long ago. The seed of love.

In order to make headway, take some time to think about how to find this dormant seed, within yourself. It’s the essential ingredient that brings the working class clever to light. Often, all that’s needed, is to spend time in the company of people who believe in themselves.

Working Class Clever

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We Always Get What We Seek

Seek

You might assume from the above title that this post is going to be a few hundred words on positive thinking, or some lame garb about how wonderful everything can be, without any effort on our part at all. The thing is, if that’s what you’re looking for, you might want to look elsewhere. Here, you’ll find something to think about, that will genuinely help you have a better life, and not something that’s just a temporary fix, to a shitty day.

The only snag, is you do actually need to do some of the work. Let’s start with  having a rethink on attitude. Right now (as you might have guessed) I have a bit of an attitude. Even so, it’s as good a time to write as any, because we are likely to get the truth, rather than the people pleasing bullshit spouted elsewhere. Attitude is something to manage and use productively.

Now, the reason I’ve got a bad attitude this morning is because I’ve allowed someone else’s mood to infect me. I could easily have chosen to ignore this person’s attitude – like water off a duck’s back – or, as is the case, use this morning’s upset as fodder for this post! So let’s do it.

Here’s the story. In order to keep myself grounded, and earn a little extra pocket money, I spend my mornings as a newsagent managing a store. One of the services we offer is parcel collection. You may have used this facility yourself. No money changes hands, however, the store does earn a fraction of a penny in commission on each transaction. With such small commissions involved, the hope is, customers collecting parcels spend whilst in the store, they rarely do. Yet we do look to be as polite and warm as possible in the hope they’ll part with some dosh.

Anyway, in walks a customer who approaches the counter throwing down a piece of barcoded paper as they do. Looking at it, and then me, they ask for their parcel. I then go through the process of asking for name and ID so I can search for it. The customer in question then states, in a very aggressive and agitated manner:

“This store is the most problematic when it comes to collecting parcels!”

I reply by pointing out that they’d probably not be thinking that if we’d had it stolen.

I’m then told I should be much more polite when dealing with customers, not make them feel like they’re trying to steal something, and be much calmer. I’m so taken aback by this I simply say nothing further and the customer leaves the store. On reflection, remaining quiet throughout the whole encounter, would have been a far better policy; we live and learn do we not?

“The alternative, to being infected by the attitude of others, is obviously the ability to simply shrug off this kind of encounter. This ability is gained through some very simple understandings.”

Firstly – and staying with the example of my customer – this particular individual had the expectation that the process of collecting a parcel was going to be somewhat problematic. To just throw a barcoded piece of paper on the counter is bound to elicit further questions. I’m unable to read barcodes and the till doesn’t disclose any details when its scanned. It just acknowledges that someone wants to collect a parcel. It’s not until I’ve found the parcel, through eliciting a name, that I can then scan the corresponding barcode. Even then details are not supplied on the till.

So asking for a name was necessary, and would have been, on all the previous problematic encounters they’d had before. ID is also required to ensure the correct person is given the item. All of this is a given, so seeing this process as problematic, is the result of poor expectations. We find what we seek through our expectations.

The second consideration comes in respect of the advice I was given: I should be calmer when dealing with customers. Interestingly enough I woke this morning feeling very calm, carrying out my daily routines in an almost sleepy fashion. Over the years, of filling some of my time doing mundane jobs (bit of a surfers attitude to work these days: it’s a means to life not life itself) I’ve gained the ability to switch off. I do it in my sleep.

“If you’re a calm, unassuming kind of person, you may find yourself the object for other people’s problems. You act as a sounding board. A void to swallow up all the shit from the sewer.”

Potentially, this calm manner, does tend to faze people a little bit, especially if they’re the kind of person who doesn’t deal with stress very well. Anyway, suffice to say, I felt very calm indeed. Who was it that was talking and acting in a stressed, agitated and aggressive manner? That’s right, the customer. So once again we have confirmation of the following philosophy: All Criticism Is Self Criticism. A classic example of the simple psychology of projection.

Seek

“A problematic encounter is experienced when we behave aggressively with unrealistic expectations. On an unconscious level, problems may well be what we seek, and have nothing whatsoever to do with those around us.”

In terms of the effort we must exert to have calmer, less stressful encounters with others, we must be prepared to look within. A little effort is required. A little effort to find your inner Gold Please. Relax your package is here.

Seek

  

Toughen up Girls! Learn how to defend yourselves (men and media savvy)

Defence

“We know the media pick extreme examples, and yet we can also know, that this doesn’t mean the examples they pick, are false, just blown out of proportion.”

In a way they’re making fools out of us all. Take for example the recent story of the journalist who went out for a meal with an MP only to be appalled at his later advances. As he “lunged at her” she remembered shrinking away from him feeling very frightened; finding herself running away. She didn’t know how to properly defend herself.

The question, the journalist who was interviewing her actively avoided asking, was the most obvious question of all, that must have been coming into the minds of all those watching: “why did you go out for a meal with him in the first place?”

It seems that naivety is being turned into sexual harassment. There was – on this occasion – some balance in that another journalist highlighted how an MP, she’d also gone out for a meal with, had kept placing his hand on her knee during their lunch. He didn’t remove it until she threatened to punch him. She also added that the whole experience hadn’t upset her.

There we see the clear difference between someone who is street smart and someone who is naive. Accusations of sexual harassment ruin peoples lives and must be thought out carefully. In other words, questions like: Was I naive in my assessment of the situation? What was my role in the whole affair? Am I lacking empathy? Was he/she lacking empathy and simply misreading the situation? Could I make my intentions clearer?

“Above all it’s important for us to recognise potential failings in communication skills, unconscious and conscious, and also how the media like to make the world seem like a dangerous and bad place, simply through their extreme examples.”

There is no such thing as a weaker sex, stop being victims.

When we properly develop the skills, that come with our particular gender, this helps us deal with our fear. The belief, that there’s a weaker sex, is just that: a belief.

It’s worth pondering on this slide

girl power
Learn the game, learn how to defend yourself

Memories of the Future

Self-aware

It’s funny how certain memories stick with you and become more prominent than others. Like the time a young boy came to see me; he’d developed an eating disorder. Strange as it may seem, he’d only eat minced beef, and his mother was worried about him. I was of course a last resort, with her having tried everything else, before knocking on my door.

He was laying in my reclining chair, with his eyes closed, recounting an upsetting experience during his dinner hour at school some weeks prior. I’d readied myself with a small tissue, so was sufficiently equipped to catch the small tear, that fell from his left eye. As I did, I turned to his mother, who was also seated in the room; the eye contact we shared exchanged all the information she needed; what he needed.

And now the memory of the two girls who turned up for an initial consultation; they’d read somewhere that Hypnotherapy can help you grow larger breasts. Out of the two girls, only one turned up for the future session we’d booked. All in all, she only came back two more times. At the end of the third session she said: “I won’t be coming back again because I’ve realised something.”

‘Okay’ I said

“Yes, I’ve realised I don’t need bigger breasts, because I’m already beautiful.”

And she was.

“The thing is, what so many of us fail to realise, is the fact we are already beautiful, and that this beauty resides deep within us. Underneath all the layers of nonsense we’re surrounded with, and taught by the world, lies the beautiful truth.”

I’m unsure what information was exchanged to help the girl realise her beauty, and as they unfold in my mind now, I’m also unable to find the connection between the two memories. Perhaps what connects them is the feelings I experienced at the time: happiness.

Happy that some people had managed to make sense of their lives and what was missing: Love.

Just a little more love is sometimes all we need.

I am actually laying in bed as I write this (I have an early start) and can hear church bells ringing. I live right next to a church (St Saviour’s) and the campanologists do their practising on a Wednesday night. It’s not an unpleasant sound, yet neither is it what I’d describe as – ‘pleasing to the ears.’ It’s just background noise like so many things are.

There is always a certain background noise. For me, it’s there to remind me of my wonderful experiences of helping people during my time as an Analyst. If you take the time to lie quietly you will eventually also hear this sound. The memories, I’m reminded of, will be there, popping up from time to time, for as long as I live. I feel memories are important, but we mustn’t dwell on the past, good memories or not. What they do help me understand though, is the importance of empowering people, and how this in turn empowers the giver.

Whatever you do in life make sure you recognise the giving nature of the role. When we take a moment to consider it, many, many occupations are of a giving nature, and that’s something beautiful to recognise about human beings.

Give of yourself, you’ll look back, with the power to move forward. א

Bad Back (no bad thing)

He was starting to do that thing the shadow man from his childhood did: fall asleep a lot, but at least his back was getting better. Jane in the shop said, “I’m glad my teeth are all false!” It was her usual inane response to something that was going on in his life.

He’d told her about his appointment with the dentist later in the day, “another bloody filling” he’d said, and that had been all she had to say – “glad my teeth are false.” It was similar to how whenever he tried to make any conversation with her, what came back, was always on the defensive, she always got the wrong end of the stick and it always sounded ridiculous to him. He knew she’d lost her mind many years ago.

To make matters worse, she was now asking him to repeat everything he said, as if she’d not heard him the first time. He’d always done this to her, asked her to repeat what she’d said, and all because he had high frequency deafness, the more he heard something the deafer he became. That’s high frequency deafness for you. He was so very tired of hearing the same things said over and over again. It was as if he’d lived hundreds of years, not just fifty two, but she seemed to be just copying him. He knew this because it was a new development. Unless she really was going deaf too.

People simply refused to acknowledge his deafness; the fact they needed his attention before speaking, and how he needed to see their faces to lip read. They simply refused to believe him. Perhaps they also understood what high frequency deafness really meant. Say something interesting though, and you’d catch his attention, that’s for sure. So few did. What did you say? Pardon? Say again? What? Fuck.

The funny thing was, some weeks ago, he’d asked her why she called herself Jane when her name was Carol. He’d seen her sign on with her official name, as it were, on the shop till, so knew her name was really Carol. A name that had a negative blast from the past for him.

Anyway, it turns out, when she was at school, and the teachers called out her name for registration, she wouldn’t hear them, so they started to call out Jane, her second name, and to their surprise, she answered. All that time thinking she was deaf and it was only her name she hated.

It’s funny how the universe seems to pull you, yes that’s the right words, pull you into situations that have some kind of metaphorical meaning; some sad link to the past. That was how he saw it anyway. He’d recently noticed all the scars on her arms from self harm; the amateur tattoos. Yes, she’d lost her mind some years ago, and was now doing over seventy hours a week to compensate.

Perhaps that was the answer then; the escape from all the insanity, just fall asleep and become a shadow man. It didn’t matter who he was talking to, they’re the great pretenders, he would think, I’m sick of this pretending. People mirroring, copying, is there no one else in this world now, am I truly all alone? Where are the real people now? Have they gone forever? Have you gone? It seems as if I’m the only one here, and its got so damn lonely; worse than ever. The silence is deafening. Like his bad back was fading; core strength returned.

Everyone seemed to have some pain; some malady; some complaint. Everyone* He might see a child in the shop though. It was so lovely to see them. So full of life, so full of love; until it’s knocked out of them by the adults that is.

No use complaining though, one grandparent was seen to say: “no sweets today, those are the rules” and it brought some hope. He though today how strange is the human who seems to just fix the problem never the cause. Like the fillings due to his sweet tooth. No sugar – no fillings, like our ancestors with their beautiful teeth, before sugar. It’s almost as if he can remember. So the humans don’t stop eating sugar, they simply invent dentists, and sugar cane fields, and sugar beet fields and shit. And shit.

The Cycle of Your Mind

“Understanding and acknowledging the processes of your mind frees you. It frees you, because you cease looking to change a process, that to some degree, is unchangeable when we’ve inadequate resources to do so.”

In other words, wanting to feel different when down is pointless. All we need do, is allow the mind to cycle through its natural processes, and unwanted feelings will change with time. Put yet another way, endure and experience the whole range of your emotions – the mind must cycle through – and all will come good in time. Endure.

Changing or creating extremes of emotions with drugs – prescription or rec-reational – is only putting off the minds need to experience emotions that have the purpose of healing. The ultimate outcome of using drugs, to create a more favourable mood and cycle, is only a means of deferment. We only ever defer emotions the mind needs to experience for healing to take place.

“The mind is constantly seeking wholeness. We’re unwholesome as long as we look to defer our emotions. Simple. So stop with the drugs will y’all.”

The cycles of emotions we all experience differ from individual to individual. Some of us wake each day with only slight variations in how we feel. Although slight, this is still cycling, just less obvious than the individual, who wakes each morning, not knowing whether they’re coming or going.

Cycling through emotions is created through the tiring effect of our beliefs. Just as with a muscle, it’s impossible for the mind to hold on indefinitely, to one believe, it tires, and moves on to another, and another, and so on. Imagine waking up everyday thinking that life is meaningful, full of love and happiness; one day it may be, but the next, life can be just as easily seen as a struggle full of sadness, pain and fear. Here’s the trick though: when we rid ourselves of the negative, we’re enabling the mind to cycle from positive to positive. Our beliefs will not be the same from day to day, yet we will be cycling from one set of positive, uplifting beliefs, to another.

braincycleSome of us have belief cycles that take months or even years to complete. These individuals may feel fine for six months and then inexplicably fall into the abyss of despair. During this time of despair, the mind is cycling through sets of belief systems, it must experience, in order to find wholeness. When we look to defer these emotions we do ourselves a great disservice. To endure all of our emotions is to be accepting and loving of ourselves. No one said love would be easy.

Time is something we need to be aware of. Time is not always on our side, and so imagine being able to reach in, and find the beliefs it could take months or even years for the mind to reveal with time alone. These are the skills and resources you must seek to help your clients find wholeness within the time available. More time whole, is more time, fully living.

GOLD Counselling is the technique by which we reach within, find our negative beliefs, question and remove them psychotherapeutically. We free ourselves of these beliefs, firstly by acknowledging their existence, purpose and birthplace, and secondly, by understanding their irrelevance in the present moment.     

Bulletproof and fearless of our pain

#charliesfight

“If you believed the universe had a plan, what would it be? To propagate life? To just exist for the sake of existing? To grow and expand until it can grow no further?”

And what of us? You might think it follows, that if we’re part of a growing, expanding universe, we must grow and expand too. If we take a step back, we can certainly see evidence of this in some quarters, yet also see evidence of its opposite, in others.

The universe has a structure that works under some very strict and fundamental rules. It’s been said, that if there were only slight deviation from these rules of structure, the universe – as we know it – couldn’t have come into existence. Perhaps a different kind of universe would’ve come into being instead.

And so, when we have slight deviation from strict rules, either that, which would have been formed, doesn’t come into existence at all, or comes into existence in a way that is flawed, and as such, unrecognisable by us. Such a flaw, in anything, be it universes or life forms, will no doubt shorten its lifespan. For example, its said that several universes may have come into existence, long before the one we inhabit, yet due to their flawed nature, came and went in the blink of an eye.

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Here and gone in the blink of an eye

“Does the universe morn these dead, early attempts? No, the universe expands, grows and thrives, as a result of these early failures.”

For many of us, it’s very hard to move on and let go of our past failures. Our feelings and fears get in the way of seeing things in a more rational light. When we do however, we free ourselves to see early mistakes and flawed creations, as something different. In fact, we can often see our early creations, as being there simply as a way of reminding us, we are never perfect. We are only ever perfectly imperfect, and yet sometimes, we even fall too short of this line, to survive.  

Parents of terminally ill children need the strength and courage to let go. Most of us wonder how they can possibly bear the pain of losing a sick child; a child they’ve created. However short a lifespan though, we can find a way to celebrate it, and learn from what this short life has taught us. In time, when we find these lessons of love – waiting to be understood – we become strong, so strong in fact, we become bulletproof and fearless of our pain. 

Take the Easy Route

“​Today is going to be filled with good news, yep good news all around, and I’m going to start with a blinder (or eye opener depending on your perspective)”

Beliefs

This good news I’m sharing with you, starts to take real effect, when we help each other shatter some very limiting beliefs and illusions. The first illusion I’m going to help you remove (so you may help others) is the one concerning comfort and ease.

Currently most of us believe we are living a life that is built on making our experience of it as comfortable as possible, that is to say, the system – or patterns of thinking we’re following –  are the one’s designed to make life easy and comfortable.

To expand, consider what is meant by the term ‘Social Norms.’ Fitting in with social norms means we’re following the path of least resistance, and as such, you may think this is the easiest way to live life: to fit in.

There is the illusion, right there. What if the reality, of the social norms most of us are living under, were in fact one of the most difficult ways of life? What, if the world we’ve built around ourselves, was in fact designed by a limited few, simply for their own comfort? What if the lives, the majority of us live out, were in fact the tedious trudge of struggling to find something that will always remain an illusion.

Think of the man working night shifts in a hotel. He calls into his local newsagent, every morning to spend a massive percentage of his wage on lottery tickets, in the hope of escaping his horrible life: illusion. Think of all the gentle souls wondering when it will be ‘their turn’ to get some kind of lucky break, a lucky break that involves happiness through money and lifestyle: illusion.

“It’s when we’re striving for equality – in this regard – that makes life hard. Chasing illusions is the hardest way to live and the easy path was the one we’ve been told to stay clear of. Social Norm?”

It’s my belief, the key to living a life to its fullest – and not necessarily form joy to joy or leisure to pleasure (like it or not, we must have some challenges and pain in life) – is freedom.

“The kind of freedom I’m talking of here is freedom of thought. When or thinking is expanded, beyond social norms, we’re then able to see the difficulties therein.”

In other words by questioning established patterns of thinking we free our minds to look elsewhere. Let me explain:

It’s often the case that those who drop-out from society are seen as living a very difficult existence. Images of sleeping rough, drinking problems, mental health issues etc. come to mind. What though, of those individuals who live outside social norms, and yet thrive? I’m talking, of course, about artists.

Those who live a creative life, and not just a life that has creativity in it, one that is creative as a whole, live freer lives. To put it another way, those who live their whole lives in a creative manner, live freer lives.

“To live creatively is to live against social norms, in fact, there are those who would say that social norms stifle creativity.”

At it’s base level, one of the most influential factors to living and thinking freely, is belief. Questioning beliefs, built by a system that favours the few, is where we must begin.

Consider how religious beliefs only truly favour the few. It’s those at the top of the hierarchical systems, built into religions, that are favoured. These people scam a seemingly effortless, comfortable life, at the expense of all others. This is achieved by maintaining control of the masses through fear and guilt.

These precious few, at the top of the religious hierarchical systems, continue to con us into believing they’re working for God. Be assured, they are not, they’re working for themselves.

“They’re self-employed decorators who constantly need to paint over the cracks of their lies, hypocrisy and deceit. I wouldn’t allow them near my house, would you?”

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We believe in this when we’re kept in a system of control through fear and guilt that belongs in the past

Helping others question their beliefs is one of my missions in life. It continues here. Notice these two pictures:

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We experience this when we believe life is about having
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We experience this when we believe life is about giving

Once empowered through knowledge and understanding, what we choose to believe, can be up to us. All we need do, is begin to question where, when and how we learned what we believe. Our beliefs then become only something we believed back then, and in the present moment now. The future? The future is up to us and what we choose to make it.​

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Image Credited To: Pinterest https://www.pinterest.com/source/bobbybones.com

Living a freer life, really can be this simple, when we think creatively.

Just Curious: How exactly do we all get to sleep at night?

“It came to mind. When we really think of it, how exactly do we get to sleep at night, whilst all this shit goes on around us?”

You know the wars and the suffering. A more refined version of my question is this: how do we get to sleep at night whilst just one of our children is suffering. It’s my opinion, that there only needs to be one suffering child in the world, for the rest of us to be living a charade.

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Shed some light on the real charade

It’s easy when we see it, in order to sleep, all we do is put the horrors from our minds. In fact, it would be detrimental to our health, if those of us who’re looking to help in this regard (easing the suffering of children), didn’t. If we don’t sleep our health will also be damaged.

“Yet the question remains and gets even bigger: how can we live the ridiculous charade of modern life whilst children suffer?”

Wouldn’t true equality be for ALL of us to be suffering in the same way our abused children currently are? And so how exactly could we find this type of equality? Perhaps we could make do with slightly less, or perhaps we could self flagellate; you know, the thing with the whips. Hold on though, some of us humans are turned on sexually by that shit, (because of violence confused with pleasure in childhood) and so then we’re into pleasure through sadism, so no, that doesn’t work.

“Hold on, I tell you what we could do, we could imagine ourselves back in childhood.”

We could then lock ourselves in a dark, cold room, full of unknown horrors (imagined or real), and get someone to call in, on a regular basis, to beat us and commit annul rape; that could work. Oh, then we’d need to sort out our diet. Yeah, now I’m on a role.

For a start, we could feed ourselves with sugar and shitty processed food, and then wash it all down with pop! For entertainment we could have a TV, phone and nothing else, and just to make our suffering all the worse, we could be surrounded by people who’re unable to listen, have very limited vocabulary, limited skills, limited imagination and don’t give a shit about anything or anyone else outside their limited scope of attention. Limited company to say the least.

“I think we need more! There’s always more of this shit.”

Outside our window we’d need to have bombs going off and we’d also need to see women and children being slaughtered, and all on a daily basis, yay! Oh, and let’s not forget the starving children, sitting in the dust, with their swollen bellies and fly’s in their crusty eyes. Our charity has certainly fixed that one, hey? Now, I wonder if we have enough fear and discomfort, to match that of an abused child yet? Probably not.

“I just can’t help wondering: how do we all sleep at night when there’s one of our children living like this?”

A child – in a civilised society – living with this fear. There’s no fear for us though: most of us can live in our lovely homes, jump in our comfortable cars, ride in our beautiful planes, feed on our lush vegetation, and chomp on our farmed lamb (remember the mint sauce). Why should we give a damn about all the suffering, abused children of the world, when we have all this! And of course whilst we do, we don’t.

“Never assume the answer to alleviating our guilt, is to give charitably, this is no answer at all. The answer, is to be aware; aware of the suffering of the abused child. Until we choose awareness, nothing will change.”

When we choose to wake up to what’s going on around us – instead of being lost to the illusions of comfort we propagate and blinded by our ignorance – only then we will fight the abuse and ignorance. When we cut-away all the nonsense of modern day life, it’s possible to clearly see, what our children have needed all along: More. Love. There’s more of that too. Just look. א

Alter the Filters

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“Allow me to paint a picture for you. You’re in a dilemma. Caught between the devil and the deep blue sea, as the saying goes. On the one hand you have the option of a gamble – plain and simple.”

You put your money down and then wait and see if your numbers come up. On the other hand you have a private pension, that you’ve ignored for many, many years and yet now feel you’re in a position to start contributing some regular cash, but only if you don’t gamble. It’s a one or the other situation.

The gamble is a business venture, that has no guarantees, no insurance etc, but requires large sums of money before any income is likely to be seen. The pension currently has a pot that’s just about large enough to piss in. You can’t touch this until retirement age and to make the pot bigger, than simply one you could only piss in, you must start contributing, and do this right now.

Option one, you gamble and potentially open up your life in extraordinary ways. Option two, you live a steady, safe and predictable life, feeling relatively comfortable. Neither happy nor unhappy.

Okay, picture painted. Now, the main reason for this dilemma is the fact you don’t gamble. In fact, so averse to gambling are you, that after taking up the offer of a fun night out at the local casino, all that happened was you spent the whole evening desperately trying to win back the two hundred pounds you lost within the first half hour. On returning home, after this ‘fun’ night out, you promptly threw up! That’s an aversion to gambling.

Let me take your mind back. Imagine the main reason for your aversion to gambling is a complex set up by your father. This is to say, during your childhood it was drummed into you, through no uncertain terms, that “gambling is a mug’s game!” Many would agree. However, spending a little time with a Personal Development Coach, Counsellor or Hypnotherapist may well show you some clear and interesting distinctions.

“In business you do need to be prepared to take a gamble. A complex established in childhood, similar to the one described above, will be limiting you.”

The way in which we filter, and as such see and experience our lives, is primarily through our early lessons and the beliefs formed from them. Professional assistance would help you remove these filters (provided they were a Licenced GOLD Counsellors that is) and help you understand the limiting nature of the generalisation: Not ALL gambling is a mugs game.

On the surface you may be thinking: what’s the problem, just be sensible and put your cash into the pension. Surely it’s the better option; the safe option? And my response would be this: Where did playing safe ever get us? When we ask the individual in question about the person who taught them: gambling’s a mugs game, what are we likely to learn? That they led a safe life? Umm… to me, safe means: predictable, boring and humdrum. A sort of half life.

So there we are: If you truly want to live, Alter the Filters. They’re not always there for our better good. Live a little, take a gamble, you’ll never regret it. And besides, retirement, what exactly is that then, time to start dying?

Charity: From the Inside Out

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See the Roots

It’s the way it works.

Whether we like it or not, it’s the only way to change what’s happening for us.

Take the example of the father who’s training for a charity run in aid of cancer research. His daughter died young from cancer, and so now he carries so much survivor guilt, he’s getting fit and going on a long run. We can’t run from our guilt, just as we’ll never be able to raise, and give away enough cash, to be rid of it for good. The only way we remove guilt is through understanding it.

Sometimes people die young, the reason they die young, is because ‘sometimes people die young.’ To talk of a ‘lost life,’ if death comes early, is in fact nonsensical. When we do this we’re assuming that life is somehow a right and we’re also assuming that a person’s life should be naturally long.

“To think of a life lost we must create an imagined future – ‘they had their whole lives ahead of them!’ – well no, they didn’t actually.”

When someone dies, whatever their age, what determines natural causes? How is it we don’t consider a random mutation, that then goes on to form cancer cells, as natural? Is it not the case that random events are a natural process?

“When we stop fearing death, spend time with our minds in the present moment, and live everyday to its fullest, then we’re free. We’re free of those who would, and are, taking advantage of our fear.”

Let me go further. Let’s say you believed that flying was dangerous. Now, if you believed this to be the case, would you then spend a lot of time in the air, or would you avoid ever flying? Most people who fly are unlikely to believe it’s a dangerous activity. They may consider it an unnatural activity, for a human, but not actually believe it’s any more dangerous than crossing the road. So it’s true to say, and although strictly speaking incorrect, the belief: flying is dangerous, is likely to keep you firmly on the ground.

To go even further, let’s say you lacked the acknowledgement that flying is an unnatural thing for a human to do. To add to this, how about if your passion was flying, and you actually believed that flying was the most natural thing in the world? If this were the case you’d quite possibly spend a lot of time in the air – either through paragliding, ballooning or whatever –  and so does this then increase the odds of you dying through an air accident? Of course it does; it increases the chances of dying through a random event or accidental failure. And so dying in this way, (hitting the ground at high velocity) is it not something we could consider, a natural cause? A natural consequence to spending a lot of time airborne.

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Safe for Some

We can follow this logic in the same way with cancer. The more humans there are, the greater chance of random events, killing us. Cancer in children happens through random mutations, so the more children we have, the greater chance of this happening. Even though feeling guilt, over the death of a youngster when we’ve survived, is understandable, in this instance, it’s misplaced.

“Charity begins with understanding ourselves from within.”

Understanding the reasons, for so much of the suffering and inequality in the world, is far more productive than the charity of giving money. No matter how much money we throw at problems, or as a means of ridding ourselves of guilt, it will never be the cure. If anything, charity can carry the side effects of keeping people stuck through dependence, or compounding worthlessness and limiting beliefs in those who receive our charitable hand-outs.

“The root is always the thing to tackle.”

Every good gardener will tell you, it’s no good looking to simply snip of the leaves or shoots, from the weed. To be truly free from the problem you must tackle it at the root. In the same way, we humans, must stop looking to cure our problems by treating the symptoms only. I cannot guess when this started to be the fashion (big money earner, whoops, did I just say that out loud?) yet we must stop running around in circles, wasting the time and energy, that could be far better placed, tackling the root of our problems.

Learn to fly.

Just The Average Human Then

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Never handing it back

Ah, so you think you can antagonise me, with your self-pity then. Wind me up with your winging, about your maladapted past. Well here’s how it lies, my friend, there’s no funding, for this vicious attack.

There are those who believe, they’re so powerful; they demonstrate to us all. What do they think will be the end result, when all they do, is rub our faces in the muck. Driving their Audi Q7 with its big panels, large engine, fat wheels. They need to exhibit their power like it’s something they’re proud to display, not knowing all along, it’s just a bullshit foray.

What do they expect, from the downtrodden, and those who’ve had no power to begin? Simple appreciation, for a beautiful car manufactured for the road? No, they’ll harbour hatred and shoot you or stab you in the back.

Like the ill mannered woman, reserving a parking space, with her body yesterday;

”Could you move please, I’d like to park and be on my way?”

“No” she replied, drawing on her fag, “I’ve been standing here for ten minutes waiting for my partner, to bring the car round, you see.”

“Well f**k, I didn’t realise you could reserve a space for a car with your body, just like that, I hope you feel powerful” I said reversing out, in disgust, finding a space not reserved by a human, smoking a fag.

There are those who could imagine the smell of her faeces and hear the crack of her skull as they drove over her head, not me, you see, I’m more powerful than that.

I could have told her: “only the guilty and the joyless smoke, you know.” What would have been the point, she’d have only answered back. It’s a wonder we start smoking, we know it’s damaging to health, yet the thing is, we’re all just like that, we refuse to believe what we don’t want to change.

Who do we listen to, when young and foolish back then? Not the parents, who don’t have a clue, themselves. Respect for a parent, must be earned they don’t see, when the adults set example’s, the children will only follow. I remember seeing the grown ups puffing on their fags “I wonder what that’s like?’ said the child in my head. Found out to my cost, as my lungs always protest, climbing up hills, on my sodding bike, such pain lacking breath.

So no, don’t expect pity or sentimentality, I’m too old for these little games, you see. I know what it’s about; it’s about making you a fortune, and me getting this devil, off my back.

Humans and their need for power, it’s not seen by those who’ve been given good fortune as a child. “You can do anything my child” said the father of Q7, and now he’s showing the world how powerful he is, take that!

Problem being, he’s taking from the world, never handing it back, never understanding his lack. He lacks the foresight, to know of the damage, to fellow man, to planet earth, herself.

Fishing for the Moon

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Equality: Fishing for the moon?

For some, there’s a simple solution to inequality. It goes like this: If you’re poor, suffering and underprivileged, held at the merciless hands of inequality, simply change your thinking.

When it comes to thinking, you could say Siddhartha Gautama (the Buddha) came up with a fabulous solution to inequality, poverty, and the suffering this brings. Buddhism states: Suffering is the process of grasping for pleasure and comfort, and because this is only ever fleeting, we suffer due to the constant need to grasp for it over and over again.

The only issue I have with this, even if it were possible for us all to adopt the same belief system, is that it’s impossible for all of us to live in monasteries – gathering alms on a daily basis – even if we wanted to. The main reason, we might not want to live as Buddhists, is its similarity to being half-dead. Just an opinion you understand.

“The beliefs of Buddhism do hold part of the solution to inequality, the other parts depend on our ability to adapt, and change our current thinking.”

So the solution cannot depend entirely on a belief system that controlling men have developed into a religion, it depends on a meld of beliefs and understandings; a formula if you will.

The first understanding comes from nature itself. Does nature (the universe) promote equality or is inequality within the natural scheme of things? One thing’s for certain, when we acknowledge that inequality is simply the necessary counterpart to equality (we can’t have one without the other) we empower ourselves to change. In other words, acceptance, can lead to removing the limitations of entitlement, martyrdom and charity.

Charity, is a subtle method, for the further disempowerment of the underprivileged: we remain in control and powerful at our, and their, expense. We pay for our power over them, they pay for our power over them.

That said, if you’re feeling charitable, why not contribute to a school that teaches leadership skills in underdeveloped countries. Why not indeed, however, you may need to look long and hard to find that particular school.

Entitlement and martyrdom are simply a product of the underdeveloped mind. Show people the limitations of these things and you empower them to change – unfortunately we’re now back to that non-existent school.

We choose how we feel about our lot in life. We also choose whether or not we escape poverty and inequality through seeking the necessary tools and information. If those tools and information aren’t readily available, you’ll need to look harder. Sound tough? You bet, it’s a violent universe my friends, violent indeed.

Part of the solution? Global access to accurate information.